6 Wedding Traditions to Trash

A wedding is full of traditions and superstitions, but it's the 21st century and as rulebook-free wedding planners we firmly believe in breaking traditions and making your own rules. With that in mind we've come up with six wedding traditions which we think belong in the trash.

1. Not seeing the groom the night before

They say, it's bad luck. We say, it's never been cited in a divorce yet! This is a very old tradition, long before co-habitation came along. Most of you find out if you can cope with your other half's snoring long before you get hitched, why should this night be any different. Enjoy your last night as a betrothed couple, but we're still big fans of getting ready separately so you get some individual time with your friends and family.

Revelry Events, Image by Maryanne Weddings

Revelry Events, Image by Maryanne Weddings

2. Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue

You've got a wedding to plan, you haven't got time to find something blue to slip into your garter (and just to be clear, that's another thing to go in the trash pile). Look, if you've got people around you who firmly believe in this and you don't care either way then fine, go with it, but don't spend your last weeks of engagement trailing the antique shops looking for the perfect something old, it won't make a blind bit of difference to your day.

3. Cutting the cake

The classic picture of a couple cutting an over sized, multi tiered cake is what springs to mind. Fair enough your cake (and your dress) might have moved on in style but can you honestly say the best wedding photos involve a couple holding a knife! We think there are better photo opps to be had during the day. Let the cake be admired untouched and leave the cutting of it to the professionals.

4. The processional song

Traditionally this was Wagner's Bridal Chorus but nowadays the shackles have lifted and for a civil service you can strut your stuff down that aisle to anything that isn't a hymn. This is one of the first parts of the day where you can let your personality shine so make it count.

5. Throwing the bouquet

We rarely see this now, it just doesn't seem to come up with our couples and it's not something that guests are expecting to see. Catching the bouquet is a tradition that seems to have died out on its own, and we're happy for it to stay that way.

6. All male speeches

Now this is one tradition that definitely needs to change and we're seeing that movement already. Lots of brides, mother's of brides/grooms and bridesmaids are making speeches on the big day. If you want to get up there to say thanks and tell some stories then go for it. Long live equal opportunity speeches!