Preparing For A Marriage While Planning A Wedding

You're getting married, congrats, that's exciting. But it's easily to get carried away with the day itself and forget what comes next - a marriage. As wedding planners by trade we perhaps shouldn't be saying this but really that's the most important bit. Your wedding day may be an amazing celebration but the part that really matters is the marriage and the life you'll have together. Ultimately that will always trump the colour of the table cloths or the best band you can get for your budget, so we're putting planning to one side in this post and giving you a list of the 10 best pieces of marriage advice we can find.

1. In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

2. Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got

3. Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

4. Let the little things go and think big picture. Since you're in it for the long haul, are you really going to care who did or didn't run the dishwasher when you look back in 10 years? Remind yourself that your relationship is much, much bigger than any one minor incident.

5. Take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you energy — being successful as a couple will only work if each of you is strong and fulfilled as an individual.

6. Don't take each other for granted. You have to work at it all the time.

7. Be nice! This can be harder than it seems sometimes, but remember that you (hopefully) love the person more than anyone else on the planet and you chose to marry them, so treat them with kindness.

8. Communication is key. When your marriage hits certain speed bumps, remind yourself that when you come out on the other side, your relationship should be better and more evolved. Make sure the tough times lead to improvement, and if you keep making the same mistakes, reevaluate why.

9. Don’t bring up the past. Last week’s fight was last week. If he cheated on you five years ago and you forgave him, it’s off limits. If she broke your favourite mug last month, let it go.

10. Schedule romance and sex. This sounds unromantic, but sometimes we get so busy and stressed we forget each other. A couple may be working, parenting and the social calendar may be full, but, taking time for your marriage and physical affection is important. It takes work.

Advice courtesy of Stronger Marriages, Popsugar, Observer,